Sis, let’s be real, something feels off. You’re praying, trying to be a good person, but deep down, there’s this restlessness. Like you’re carrying invisible weights that won’t let you breathe. Ever wondered what’s stealing your inner peace? Spoiler alert: It’s not the world, it’s YOU.
But guess what? The best version of you is still within reach. Let’s uncover 8 toxic habits that are silently draining your peace and, more importantly, how to kick them to the curb, with wisdom straight from Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). Ready? Let’s dive in!
1. Overthinking Every Little Thing
“If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from it you cannot flee.” (Prophet Muhammad PBUH)
You replay that awkward conversation 100 times. You worry about things that haven’t even happened yet. Overthinking is like quicksand, it sucks you in and keeps you stuck. Instead, put your trust in Allah (Tawakkul). Learn to let go and say:
Hasbunallahu wa ni’mal wakeel (Allah is sufficient for us, and He is the best disposer of affairs.)
2. Comparing Yourself to Others
“Look at those below you (in wealth and status) and do not look at those above you, for this will make you appreciate Allah’s blessings on you.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
Scrolling through Instagram, seeing that girl’s perfect life, and suddenly feeling like a total failure? STOP. Social media is a highlight reel, not real life. Shift your focus to gratitude, count your blessings instead of comparing them.
Action step: Every night, write down 3 things you’re grateful for. It rewires your mindset!
3. Holding Grudges & Not Letting Go
“Do not harbor grudge against one another, nor envy one another, and do not desert one another. O Allah’s servants! Be brothers.” (Sahih Muslim)
Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer. It’s only hurting you. Learn to forgive, not because they deserve it, but because YOU deserve peace.
Action step: Make dua for the person who hurt you. It’s hard, but it’s healing.
4. Neglecting Salah & Spiritual Self-Care
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Quran 13:28)
Sis, you wouldn’t go a day without eating, right? Then why starve your soul? Skipping Salah, ignoring the Quran, and neglecting dua are direct tickets to inner chaos. Reconnect with Allah, and peace will follow.
Action step: Struggling with prayer? Start small. Just commit to Fajr and Isha, consistency will build up.
5. Negative Self-Talk & Doubting Yourself
“Do not belittle yourself.” (Sahih Muslim)
Would you ever talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself? No? Then why do it? The way you speak to yourself MATTERS. Replace ‘I can’t’ with ‘With Allah’s help, I CAN.’
Action step: Every morning, look in the mirror and say: Allah created me with purpose. I am valuable. I am enough.
6. Chasing Dunya Over Akhirah
“The world is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever.” (Sahih Muslim)
It’s easy to get caught up in money, beauty, success, but when your heart is attached to the temporary, you’ll always feel empty. True peace comes from seeking Jannah, not likes or luxury.
Action step: Swap 10 minutes of social media for 10 minutes of Quran daily. You’ll feel the difference.
7. Gossiping & Engaging in Drama
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should either speak good or remain silent.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
Talking about people behind their backs? It’s like eating their flesh (literally, read Quran 49:12!). Gossip poisons your soul. Speak good, or stay silent.
Action step: Next time someone starts gossiping, steer the conversation to something positive.
8. Not Prioritizing Your Mental & Emotional Health
The Prophet (PBUH) took breaks, spent time in nature, bonded with family, and even joked with his companions. Islam is about balance, sis! Take care of your mind, body, and soul.
Action step: Go for a walk, read a book, journal your thoughts, whatever helps you recharge.
Final Thought: Choose Peace, Choose Allah
Inner peace isn’t found in people, things, or achievements. It’s found in Allah. Start making small changes today, and watch how your heart starts feeling lighter, happier, and more at peace.
Now tell me, sis, which toxic habit are you saying goodbye to first? Drop a comment below!