Sister, have you ever felt a sense of emptiness even when everything seems fine on the surface? Do you sometimes struggle with anxiety, guilt, or a lack of inner peace? What if I told you that certain actions, ones you might not even realize, are draining your happiness every single day?
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: “Avoid the seven deadly sins.” (Sahih al-Bukhari). While we all strive to be good Muslims, some sins creep into our lives so subtly that we barely notice them. But don’t worry, once you become aware of them, you can take control and bring back the peace and joy you deserve!
Let’s uncover these hidden happiness-killers and how you can avoid them using the wisdom of the Sunnah. Ready? Let’s go!
1. Gossiping & Backbiting – The Silent Poison
How often do we casually talk about others? A comment here, a judgment there, it seems harmless, right? But did you know that backbiting is compared to eating the flesh of your dead sister? (Quran 49:12)
Why it destroys your happiness: When we speak ill of others, our hearts become filled with negativity, jealousy, and guilt. It distances us from Allah and steals our inner peace.
How to stop:
- Before speaking, ask yourself: Would I say this in front of her?
- Keep your tongue busy with dhikr (SubhanAllah, Alhamdulillah, Allahu Akbar).
- Surround yourself with positive, uplifting sisters who remind you of good.
2. Jealousy – The Fire That Burns Within
Have you ever scrolled through Instagram and thought, “I wish I had her life”? Jealousy is a silent thief of happiness. The Prophet (PBUH) warned: “Beware of jealousy, for it consumes good deeds just as fire consumes wood.” (Abu Dawood)
Why it destroys your happiness: It makes you focus on what you lack instead of the blessings Allah has already given you.
How to stop:
- Whenever jealousy creeps in, say MashaAllah and make dua for that person.
- Count your blessings, literally! Write down 3 things you’re grateful for every day.
- Remember: Everyone has struggles, even if you don’t see them on social media.
3. Disrespecting Parents – The Shortcut to Misery
Life gets busy, and sometimes, we don’t realize how our words and actions affect our parents. But did you know that the displeasure of parents can block blessings in your life? The Prophet (PBUH) said: “The pleasure of Allah is in the pleasure of one’s parents, and the anger of Allah is in the anger of one’s parents.” (Tirmidhi)
Why it destroys your happiness: When we hurt our parents, whether through words, neglect, or attitude, it creates a ripple effect of stress and discontent in our lives.
How to stop:
- Call your parents just to say Assalamu Alaikum and ask about their day.
- Make dua for them after every Salah.
- Even when they annoy you (because they will!), take a deep breath and remember that Jannah lies at their feet.
4. Neglecting Salah – The Soul’s Biggest Loss
Salah isn’t just a ritual, it’s a direct lifeline to peace, purpose, and blessings. The Prophet (PBUH) said: “The first thing a person will be asked about on the Day of Judgment is their prayer.” (Tirmidhi)
Why it destroys your happiness: Skipping or delaying Salah disconnects you from Allah’s mercy and guidance. It leaves an emptiness in your heart that nothing else can fill.
How to stop:
- Set reminders for Salah, treat it like an unmissable appointment with Allah.
- Make wudu as soon as you hear the Adhan; don’t wait!
- Find a prayer buddy to keep you accountable.
5. Engaging in Harām Relationships – The Trap of Temporary Happiness
Sister, I get it. We all crave love, attention, and connection. But love outside of the boundaries set by Allah will never bring lasting happiness. The Prophet (PBUH) said: “When a man and a woman are alone together, Shaytan is the third.” (Tirmidhi)
Why it destroys your happiness: It may feel exciting at first, but harām relationships often lead to heartbreak, guilt, and loss of self-respect. They pull you away from Allah’s blessings.
How to stop:
- If you’re struggling, turn to Allah in sincere dua. He WILL help you.
- Fill your heart with halal love, strengthen your bond with family and friends.
- If you’re ready for marriage, seek it the right way. Trust Allah’s timing.
Final Thoughts: It’s Time to Reclaim Your Happiness!
Happiness doesn’t come from money, relationships, or social status. It comes from living in a way that pleases Allah. The good news? No matter how far we’ve strayed, Allah’s mercy is always open. The moment you make the intention to change, He rushes to help you.
The Prophet (PBUH) said: “Indeed, Allah loves those who repent and purify themselves.” (Quran 2:222)