Sis, let’s be real, some friendships are straight-up toxic for your heart and soul. You know that feeling when you’re around someone, and suddenly your motivation to pray disappears, your hijab feels heavier, and your tongue starts slipping into gossip? Yep, that’s a red flag.
Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) taught us that the people we surround ourselves with shape our Imaan. He (PBUH) said:
“A person is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” (Abu Dawood 4833, Tirmidhi 2378)
If someone is pulling you away from Allah instead of bringing you closer, it’s time to step back. Let’s dive into the 4 signs that scream “SIS, RUN!”
1. They Make You Feel Embarrassed About Your Faith
Ever heard, “You take religion too seriously!” or “Why do you have to be so extreme?” when you refuse to compromise on your Deen? If so, this is a major red flag. Islam is not just a part of your life; it is your life. If someone makes you feel awkward for choosing modesty, praying on time, or avoiding haram activities, they are not your people.
Action Plan:
- Stand firm. Remember, the Prophet (PBUH) faced criticism too, but he never wavered.
- Surround yourself with righteous company. Find sisters who uplift you, not mock you.
- Make du’a. Ask Allah for strength: “O Allah, make my heart firm upon Your religion.” (Tirmidhi 2140)
2. They Encourage Gossip, Drama, or Sins
Let’s be honest, gossiping can feel juicy, but it’s actually deadly for your soul. The Prophet (PBUH) warned us:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or remain silent.” (Bukhari 6018, Muslim 47)
If someone constantly brings up drama, spreads rumors, or tempts you into haram (music, inappropriate talk, skipping Salah, etc.), you need distance before it poisons your heart.
Action Plan:
- Change the subject when gossip starts. If they insist, walk away.
- Remind them gently. Say, “Let’s not talk about her; we wouldn’t want others talking about us, right?”
- Replace them with better company. The Prophet (PBUH) compared a good friend to a perfume seller, just being around them leaves you smelling sweet. (Bukhari 5534, Muslim 2628)
3. They Drain Your Imaan Instead of Boosting It
Do you feel spiritually exhausted after hanging out with them? Maybe your heart feels heavy, your motivation for worship drops, or you find yourself slipping into bad habits.
A good friend should remind you of Jannah, not distract you from it. The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“The best of companions is one who helps you when you mention Allah.” (Shu’ab al-Iman 8982)
Action Plan:
- Limit your time with them. Spend more time with people who bring light to your heart.
- Engage in spiritual activities. Read Qur’an together, discuss Hadith, or attend Islamic classes.
- Check your vibes. If a friendship leaves you feeling empty, it’s not worth your Imaan.
4. They Are Always Negative and Complain About Life
We all have struggles, but some people live in negativity, constantly complaining instead of seeking solutions. This negativity can seep into your soul and make you ungrateful for Allah’s blessings. The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Be mindful of Allah, and you will find Him before you. Know Allah in prosperity, and He will know you in adversity.” (Tirmidhi 2516)
Action Plan:
- Respond with positivity. When they complain, remind them of Allah’s blessings.
- Encourage gratitude. Start conversations with “Alhamdulillah, what’s something good that happened today?”
- Protect your own heart. If their negativity pulls you down, step back and prioritize your peace.
Final Thoughts: Protect Your Imaan Like It’s Your Most Precious Jewel
Your soul is too valuable to be surrounded by negativity, distractions, and bad influence. Be the kind of friend who lifts others towards Jannah, and choose friends who do the same for you.
Now, tell me, sis, have you ever had to distance yourself from someone for the sake of your Imaan? Drop your thoughts in the comments! Let’s uplift and support each other.