Have you ever felt like you’re drifting away from who you truly are? That something feels off in your life, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? If you’ve been feeling that way, it might be because of the company you keep. Yes, your friends and social circle can influence your thoughts, behavior, and even your faith. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, “A man follows the religion of his friend; so each one should consider whom he makes his friend.” (Abu Dawood)
If you’re a young Muslim girl trying to stay on the right path, this post is for you. Let’s dive into the four alarming signs you might be falling into bad company and, more importantly, how to fix it!
Sign 1: You Feel Distant from Your Faith
When you’re with your friends, do you feel uncomfortable talking about your faith? Or worse, do you feel pressured to act against it? Hazrat Muhammad (PBUH) warned us about the power of influence.
What to Do: Choose friends who bring you closer to Allah. The Prophet (PBUH) said, “The example of a good companion who sits with you in comparison with a bad one is like that of the musk seller and the blacksmith’s bellows…” (Bukhari, Muslim). Make an effort to spend time with those who inspire you to pray, be kind, and follow the right path.
Sign 2: Negative Habits Are Becoming Normalized
Do you find yourself making excuses for bad behavior? Maybe you catch yourself gossiping, lying, or being disrespectful because it’s the norm in your group.
What to Do: Reflect and make a change. The Prophet (PBUH) said, “The best among you are those who have the best manners and character.” (Bukhari). If your environment is making you lose your character, it’s time to reassess. Politely distance yourself from negative influences and surround yourself with those who encourage good habits.
Sign 3: Your Motivation to Do Good Decreases
Do you find yourself skipping prayers or losing interest in things that once brought you peace and fulfillment?
What to Do: Reignite your faith by spending time with those who motivate you towards goodness. Remember, the Prophet (PBUH) said, “The believer to another believer is like a building whose different parts support each other.” (Bukhari, Muslim). Build friendships with those who support you in your journey of faith.
Sign 4: You Feel Drained and Spiritually Empty
Friends should uplift you, not drain you. If you constantly feel exhausted, misunderstood, or judged, it’s time to reevaluate.
What to Do: Invest in friends who value your happiness and spiritual growth. As the Prophet (PBUH) said, “Keep company with a believer only, and let your food be eaten only by the righteous.” (Tirmidhi). Your company should be a source of strength, not weakness.
Final Thoughts
It’s okay to outgrow people. Sometimes, walking away from bad company is the bravest and best thing you can do for your faith and well-being. Remember, you deserve friendships that inspire you to be the best version of yourself, both in this world and the Hereafter.
Which of these signs do you relate to the most? And how do you plan to overcome them? Let me know in the comments below!