Are you tired of feeling like you’re never enough? Constantly seeking approval, worrying about what others think, and feeling drained by their expectations? Girl, it’s time to break free and turn to the only One who truly matters, Allah!
Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) taught us how to live with confidence, inner peace, and unshakable faith. Let’s explore 10 powerful ways to stop seeking validation from people and focus entirely on pleasing Allah instead.
1. Remember Who Created You
Why crave validation from imperfect people when the Most Perfect One created you? Allah says:
“Indeed, We have created man in the best of stature.” (Qur’an 95:4)
You are already valuable in His eyes. The moment you start believing this, the need for external validation weakens.
2. Check Your Intentions, Who Are You Really Doing This For?
The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Actions are but by intention, and every man shall have only that which he intended.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
Before posting that picture, buying that outfit, or making a decision, pause. Ask yourself: Am I doing this for people’s approval or for Allah’s pleasure? If it’s not for Him, rethink it!
3. Embrace the Power of Tawakkul (Trust in Allah)
People’s opinions are fleeting, but Allah’s love is eternal. Put your trust in Him:
“And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him.” (Qur’an 65:3)
Once you understand that Allah has your back, you won’t need others’ validation to feel secure.
4. Silence the Inner Critic with Dhikr (Remembrance of Allah)
That little voice in your head whispering, What will people think?, shut it down with dhikr! The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (Qur’an 13:28)
The next time doubt creeps in, say SubhanAllah, Alhamdulillah, Allahu Akbar, and watch your confidence grow.
5. Stop Comparing Your Life to Others
Social media can make you feel like everyone else has it all figured out. But the Prophet (PBUH) taught us:
“Look at those below you (less fortunate) and do not look at those above you, for this is better.” (Muslim)
Gratitude for what you have will shift your focus from seeking approval to seeking contentment.
6. Find Strength in Salah (Prayer)
When you feel insecure, PRAY. Salah connects you directly to Allah, grounding you in what truly matters. The Prophet (PBUH) would pray whenever he faced difficulties, why not do the same?
7. Surround Yourself with People Who Uplift Your Imaan
Your friends should remind you of Allah, not push you to seek approval from people. The Prophet (PBUH) said:
“A man follows the religion of his close friend, so each of you should consider whom he takes as a close friend.” (Abu Dawood)
Choose company that helps you grow spiritually, not just socially.
8. Speak Less, Listen More
Sometimes, we overshare to impress others. But the Prophet (PBUH) said:
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or remain silent.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
Before you say something, ask yourself: Am I speaking to impress or to inspire? Choose wisely.
9. Detach from Praise and Criticism
People’s opinions are like the wind, always changing. The Prophet (PBUH) never let praise inflate his ego or criticism shake his mission. Stay grounded in your purpose: to please Allah, not people.
10. Make Dua for Inner Strength
Nothing changes without Allah’s help. The Prophet (PBUH) frequently made dua for guidance and sincerity. Here’s a powerful dua for you:
“O Allah, I seek Your love, the love of those who love You, and the love of deeds that bring me closer to Your love.” (Tirmidhi)
Say it often. Feel it deeply. And watch how your heart shifts from seeking validation to seeking Allah’s pleasure.
Final Thought: Who Are You Living For?
At the end of the day, people’s approval is temporary, but Allah’s pleasure is eternal. So, are you ready to stop seeking validation from the world and start focusing on the One who truly matters?
Drop a ‘YES!’ in the comments and let’s support each other on this journey to self-worth through faith!